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Author: Harmonie Abraham

  • Why Christian Women Need Self-Care.

    “Self-care is not a luxury, it’s obedience. Even Jesus paused to rest, pray, and recharge—so should you.”

    Harmonie Abraham

    As Christian women, we often carry so much. We wear multiple hats; wife, mother, sister, friend, intercessor, encourager, homemaker, and more. While we pour into others day after day, it’s easy to neglect ourselves in the name of sacrifice or service. But here’s the truth: taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s stewardship.

    ❤️Why Self-Care Matters for Christian Women

    Self-care is not a worldly indulgence. It’s a spiritual necessity. When we neglect ourselves, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically, we risk burnout, resentment, and disconnection from God’s best for us.

    💡Why Is Self-Care Important?

    God created us with limits. Even Jesus—fully God and fully man—took time to retreat, rest, and be refreshed (Luke 5:16). If our Savior saw the need to pause and recharge, how much more do we?

    Self-care helps us:

    1) Stay spiritually grounded by making space for quiet time with God

    2) Care for others more effectively from a place of overflow, not emptiness

    3) Guard our mental and emotional health in a world full of noise

    4) Reflect God’s love for ourselves—because how we treat ourselves speaks volumes about what we believe about our worth

    📖Biblical Examples of Rest and Renewal

    The Bible is full of examples where rest and self-care were not just allowed but commanded:

    Elijah was exhausted and overwhelmed. Instead of scolding him, God gave him food, rest, and quiet before addressing his spiritual need (1 Kings 19:5–8).

    Jesus often withdrew to quiet places to pray (Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16).

    The Sabbath itself is a gift of rest from God—a rhythm of restoration and worship (Exodus 20:8–10).

    💡How I Practice Self-Care as a Busy Mum of Four (with Two Under Two!)

    Let me be honest, life is busy! With four beautiful children, two of them under two, I know how hard it is to find time for yourself. But I’ve learned that making space for self-care is essential to be the mother, wife, and woman God has called me to be.

    Here’s what my self-care rhythm looks like:

    🌅Early mornings just for me and God: I wake up before the children to spend 15 minutes reading the Word, 15 minutes in prayer, and 30 minutes getting myself ready in peace. That quiet hour sets the tone for my whole day.

    ✨Morning walks with the little ones: After dropping off the older kids at school, I take the babies for a one-hour walk in the buggy. That fresh air and movement helps my mental health and gives me space to think, breathe, and reconnect.

    🌃Friday evenings just for me: I set aside three hours every Friday evening. Sometimes I get my nails or hair done, other times I just read a book or watch a movie, whatever refreshes me in that moment.

    These small acts of self-care are my way of saying, “Lord, I honor the body and mind You gave me.”

    Sister, if you’re feeling weary, stretched thin, or running on empty—know that you’re not alone. God sees you. He delights in your service, but He also invites you to rest in Him.

    Taking care of yourself isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make space to rest, to reflect, to enjoy the life God has given you. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It just needs to be intentional.

    You are worthy of rest. You are allowed to pause. You are loved deeply by a God who knows you need it.

    Take care of yourself, sweet friend—mind, body, and spirit.

    With love and grace,
    Harmonie 💜

  • Expressing Gratitude

    “my contentment comes from a heart full of gratitude”

    “a grateful heart is not only the greatest virtue but the parent of all the other virtues”

    Cicero

    Gratitude is something I’ve learned to hold dear. Not just as a polite gesture, but as a way of life. For me, expressing my gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you.” It’s more about showing it and living it.

    I’ve found that I express my gratitude best through acts of service. Whether it’s lending a helping hand, or simply being present and available, these little actions are my way of saying, “I see you, I appreciate you, and I don’t take you for granted.”

    To me there’s something more powerful about going beyond words. When I help others, I feel like I’m giving back a piece of the love or kindness I’ve received. It’s my own way of paying it forward. Sometimes it’s in big ways, and other times it’s as simple as checking in on someone or offering my time when I’d rather rest (and trust me, having 4 children, most of the time, I’m exhausted 😂).

    But every one of my acts of service carries meaning. Each one is a small reflection of the gratitude I carry in my heart.

    Why is gratitude so important? Because it shifts your focus. In a world that constantly tells us we need more, more success, more recognition, more stuff, gratitude says, “What I have is enough.” It brings peace. It humbles us. It opens our eyes to the blessings we often overlook. And it deepens our relationships, because when people feel appreciated, they feel valued.

    Gratitude also strengthens our faith. Personally, when I pause to thank God for what I have (even when it’s not everything I want), I’m reminded of His faithfulness. It keeps me anchored, especially in seasons where life feels hard or uncertain.

    So if you’re ever feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled, I encourage you to start with gratitude. Write it down. Say it out loud. Show it through your actions and watch how it transforms your mindset and your heart.

    Now I’d love to hear from you. How do you express gratitude? Let me know in the comments or reflect on it in your own journal. However you choose to do it, just make sure you’re doing it often.

    With love,
    Harmonie

  • A Mid-Year Wake Up Call

    “The end of a thing is better than its beginning…” – Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NKJV)

    Today is July 1st, 2025, and just like that we’ve officially stepped into the second half of the year. Six months gone. Six months remain.

    If we’re being honest, many of us made New Year’s resolutions back in January. Goals, dreams, promises to ourselves. 

    Whether it was to pray more, study the Word, get our health in order, start a new business venture, grow in ministry, or simply live more intentionally. But now, six months in, how much have we truly accomplished?

    For most people, not even half of those resolutions have been ticked off. In fact, for some, not even a quarter has been touched. Life got busy, distractions came, motivations faded. And so those goals quietly drifted to the background.

    But here’s the good news:
    You still have six months left.

    That’s 182 days of new opportunities.
    182 days to reignite the fire that burned at the beginning of the year, to realign with God’s purpose for your life, to return to the vision He gave you and to finish what He started in you.

    Here’s What You Can Do Now:

    • Reflect: Go back to your resolutions. What did you say you would do? Why did it matter to you back then? Does it still matter now?
    • Repent Where Needed: If you’ve strayed or slacked off, there’s grace. Don’t stay stuck in guilt, “return to your first love” (Revelation 2:4–5).
    • Restart: If you haven’t started, start now. The past is gone, but today is still yours to claim.
    • Recover: If you started but faced setbacks, don’t be discouraged. It’s not about how many times you fall, but how often you rise.
    • Remain Consistent: For those of you who have been pushing through, keep going. Don’t stop. You’re building momentum.
    • Refocus: Cut off distractions. Silence the noise. Your future self will thank you for the discipline you show now.

    So, this is your mid-year wake-up call!

    Let’s not let another six months pass by with dreams untouched, goals abandoned, or potential wasted. Let’s make these next six months count even more than the first.

    Let July be the month you wake up.

    The month you reflect, repent, restart, recover and refocus.
    Let the rest of 2025 be anointed, fruitful, and blessed beyond measure—with God.

    “Being confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 1:6

    Amen

  • What makes a teacher great?


    “Teaching is the one profession that creates all other professions.” — Unknown

    A great teacher is more than someone who delivers lessons. They are mentors, motivators, and role models who leave a lasting impact long after the classroom doors close.


    Great teachers have a genuine love for learning and for sharing that love with others. Their enthusiasm is contagious, inspiring students to stay curious and engaged.


    They know their material inside and out, but more importantly, they know how to break it down in ways that make it accessible, relevant, and meaningful.


    Every child learns differently. A great teacher meets students where they are, adapts their approach, and encourages progress with compassion and patience.


    They don’t just teach — they listen. They understand the power of building relationships based on trust, respect, and understanding.


    A great teacher values diversity and creates a safe, welcoming environment for every student to be seen, heard, and valued.


    They never stop learning. Great teachers reflect on their practice, seek feedback, and continually strive to become better educators and better people.


    They nurture confidence, character, and critical thinking. They teach life skills, not just curriculum — shaping not just students, but future citizens and leaders.

    Being a great teacher isn’t about perfection. It’s about heart, consistency, and the willingness to walk alongside students as they grow — sometimes stumbling, sometimes soaring — always learning.

  • Woman, who are you?

    Woman, who are you?

    Take a moment. Breathe. Now, ask yourself this:

    Who are you?
    Not as a wife.
    Not as a mother.
    Not as a daughter.
    Not even by the name of your husband or father.

    Who are you, really?

    This is not just a question, it’s  holy pause in the noise of daily duties and expectations. It is a quiet invitation to come back to yourself.

    Too many of us have been raised, sometimes knowingly, sometimes silently to believe that our value, identity, and even salvation are tethered solely to the men in our lives. We were taught to serve, to give, to support. And while there is deep beauty and divine honor in being a wife and mother, those titles are not the whole of you.

    You were not created as a role. You were created as a soul.

    Your Identity Is In Christ, Not In Roles

    “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
    — Ephesians 2:10

    Before you were someone’s wife or someone’s mother, you were God’s. Designed with purpose. Shaped with intention. Equipped with gifts.

    So again, who are you?

    What dreams did God place in your heart when you were a little girl, long before marriage or motherhood?

    What skills lie dormant because you believed they didn’t “fit” the role you were taught to fill?

    Biblical Women With Purpose Beyond the Home

    • Deborah – A judge and prophetess (Judges 4–5). She led Israel into battle and brought peace to a nation.
    • Priscilla – A teacher of the gospel (Acts 18). She corrected and guided Apollos, a preacher, alongside her husband.
    • Lydia – A successful businesswoman (Acts 16). She dealt in purple cloth and supported the early church.
    • The Proverbs 31 Woman – Not just a wife and mother, but a businesswoman, investor, and leader:

      “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:16
      “She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” – Proverbs 31:18

    She was not just waiting at the door with dinner. She was up early. Managing. Buying. Selling. Creating. Providing.

    You Are Allowed to Evolve

    Yes, nurture your family. Be the blessing your home needs. But remember this: you are allowed to evolve. To grow. To step into more.

    You are allowed to start that business.
    To return to school.
    To write the book.
    To serve others through your gifts.
    To chase the calling God whispered into your spirit.

    Motherhood and marriage are ministries, but they are not prisons.

    An Encouragement

    Sister, God is not asking you to forsake your family for your dreams. But He may be asking you to wake up to the fullness of what He put inside you.

    Ask Him:
    “Lord, show me who I am when the titles fall away. Remind me of my name, my essence, my purpose.”

    And then listen. Because He will answer.

    Amen