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  • Your Past Has Expired — You’ve Outgrown That Room

    There are moments in life when God lets us revisit the past, not to stay there, but to realize just how far we’ve come.

    Sometimes it happens in a conversation, a memory, or even a dream. Suddenly you’re back in an old environment. Maybe a room you used to sit in. A crowd you used to blend into. A system you once believed in. But this time, something feels… different.

    • You don’t quite fit anymore.
    • You don’t recognize the people.
    • You feel out of place — like a visitor in your own history.

    And that’s when God whispers:
    “This is not your room anymore. You’ve outgrown this place.”

    Old Rooms, New Revelations

    It’s wild how we can cling to old titles, old beliefs, old labels, simply because they feel familiar. But God is not in the business of keeping you in comfort zones. He’s in the business of transformation.

    You may have once needed that place. It may have even helped shape your foundation. But growth requires movement. And God loves you too much to let you shrink yourself just to keep others comfortable.

    “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!”
    – Isaiah 43:18–19 (NKJV)

    Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Disrespect

    Walking away from an old room doesn’t mean dishonor. It means obedience.

    You can love people and still leave places that no longer align with who God is calling you to be. You can honor your roots and still pursue your rise. Some rooms served a purpose for a season, but the season has changed — and so have you.

    A Prayer for When You Feel the Tug

    Lord, give me the courage to walk away from the past without guilt.
    Show me where You are now.
    Help me not to grieve expired places, but to step boldly into the “new thing” You are doing in my life.
    Remind me that growth is not betrayal, it’s obedience.
    In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    Final Thought

    If you’ve been feeling stuck between who you were and who you’re becoming, this is your confirmation: It’s okay to move forward. You don’t belong in that old room anymore. Not because you’re better, but because you’re becoming.

    And trust me, what God has prepared for you ahead is far greater than what you’re leaving behind.

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  • Overcoming Fear and Anxiety Through Scripture

    Have You Ever Felt So Anxious That It Was Hard to Even Breathe Properly?

    I have. Many times, in fact.

    There have been nights when I’ve laid awake staring at the ceiling, heart pounding, thoughts racing like a train I couldn’t stop. Fear gripped me—fear of the unknown, fear of not being enough, fear of what tomorrow might hold.

    I’ve had moments where anxiety whispered lies into my ears, convincing me that things would never get better. That I wasn’t strong enough. That I was alone.

    But let me tell you something that has changed everything for me: the Word of God.

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    My Personal Journey with Fear

    There was a particular season when everything around me felt uncertain. I had just become a mother again, and I was battling exhaustion, health worries, marital problems and the overwhelming pressure of managing my home, dreams, and responsibilities.

    One evening, I remember walking into the bathroom, locking the door behind me, sitting on the edge of the tub, and just weeping. Not soft tears—but deep, guttural sobs.

    I cried out, “God, I’m scared. What if I fail? What if I let everyone down?”

    And in that moment, the Holy Spirit gently reminded me of a scripture I had read countless times:

    > “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” — 2 Timothy 1:7

    This verse transformed my subconscious and saved my life.

    God was saying, “This fear? It’s not from Me. I have given you power. I have given you peace.”

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    Scriptures That Have Anchored Me

    I want to share a few verses that helped me break free from fear’s grip and step into God’s peace.

    1. Isaiah 41:10

    > “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you…”

    This verse reminded me that I am never alone. Even when life feels overwhelming, God is right beside me, strengthening me moment by moment.

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    2. Philippians 4:6-7

    > “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God…”

    This scripture became my daily weapon. Instead of panicking, I began praying. I poured out my worries in prayer, and little by little, God replaced them with His peace.

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    3. Psalm 34:4

    > “I sought the Lord, and He answered me; He delivered me from all my fears.”

    That was me. I sought Him—and He answered. My fears didn’t always disappear overnight, but their power over me was broken.

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    How I Fight Fear Today

    Fear still tries to creep in. I still face moments of uncertainty. But now I respond differently:

    I speak scripture out loud over myself and my home.

    I worship, even when I don’t feel like it.

    I pray honestly—as if God is sitting right next to me (because He is).

    I remind myself of His faithfulness in the past.

    Every time fear rises, I raise my faith higher.

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    If You’re Struggling Today…

    I want you to know: you’re not alone.

    God sees you. He hears even your silent tears. And He is bigger than whatever you’re facing right now.

    Start small. Choose one scripture. Write it down. Speak it over yourself every day. Let the Word of God drown out the voice of anxiety.

    God’s Word isn’t just beautiful—it’s powerful.

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    A Prayer for You

    Heavenly Father,
    I lift up every person reading this who is battling fear or anxiety. Let Your peace wash over them right now. Silence every lie of the enemy and replace it with Your truth. Remind them that they are not alone. That You are with them. That You are for them. Fill their hearts with courage, and their minds with calm. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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    With love and strength,
    Harmonie Abraham
    http://www.harmonieblogs.com

  • Why Christian Women Need Self-Care.

    “Self-care is not a luxury, it’s obedience. Even Jesus paused to rest, pray, and recharge—so should you.”

    Harmonie Abraham

    As Christian women, we often carry so much. We wear multiple hats; wife, mother, sister, friend, intercessor, encourager, homemaker, and more. While we pour into others day after day, it’s easy to neglect ourselves in the name of sacrifice or service. But here’s the truth: taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s stewardship.

    ❤️Why Self-Care Matters for Christian Women

    Self-care is not a worldly indulgence. It’s a spiritual necessity. When we neglect ourselves, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically, we risk burnout, resentment, and disconnection from God’s best for us.

    💡Why Is Self-Care Important?

    God created us with limits. Even Jesus—fully God and fully man—took time to retreat, rest, and be refreshed (Luke 5:16). If our Savior saw the need to pause and recharge, how much more do we?

    Self-care helps us:

    1) Stay spiritually grounded by making space for quiet time with God

    2) Care for others more effectively from a place of overflow, not emptiness

    3) Guard our mental and emotional health in a world full of noise

    4) Reflect God’s love for ourselves—because how we treat ourselves speaks volumes about what we believe about our worth

    📖Biblical Examples of Rest and Renewal

    The Bible is full of examples where rest and self-care were not just allowed but commanded:

    Elijah was exhausted and overwhelmed. Instead of scolding him, God gave him food, rest, and quiet before addressing his spiritual need (1 Kings 19:5–8).

    Jesus often withdrew to quiet places to pray (Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16).

    The Sabbath itself is a gift of rest from God—a rhythm of restoration and worship (Exodus 20:8–10).

    💡How I Practice Self-Care as a Busy Mum of Four (with Two Under Two!)

    Let me be honest, life is busy! With four beautiful children, two of them under two, I know how hard it is to find time for yourself. But I’ve learned that making space for self-care is essential to be the mother, wife, and woman God has called me to be.

    Here’s what my self-care rhythm looks like:

    🌅Early mornings just for me and God: I wake up before the children to spend 15 minutes reading the Word, 15 minutes in prayer, and 30 minutes getting myself ready in peace. That quiet hour sets the tone for my whole day.

    ✨Morning walks with the little ones: After dropping off the older kids at school, I take the babies for a one-hour walk in the buggy. That fresh air and movement helps my mental health and gives me space to think, breathe, and reconnect.

    🌃Friday evenings just for me: I set aside three hours every Friday evening. Sometimes I get my nails or hair done, other times I just read a book or watch a movie, whatever refreshes me in that moment.

    These small acts of self-care are my way of saying, “Lord, I honor the body and mind You gave me.”

    Sister, if you’re feeling weary, stretched thin, or running on empty—know that you’re not alone. God sees you. He delights in your service, but He also invites you to rest in Him.

    Taking care of yourself isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make space to rest, to reflect, to enjoy the life God has given you. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It just needs to be intentional.

    You are worthy of rest. You are allowed to pause. You are loved deeply by a God who knows you need it.

    Take care of yourself, sweet friend—mind, body, and spirit.

    With love and grace,
    Harmonie 💜

  • Woman, who are you?

    Woman, who are you?

    Take a moment. Breathe. Now, ask yourself this:

    Who are you?
    Not as a wife.
    Not as a mother.
    Not as a daughter.
    Not even by the name of your husband or father.

    Who are you, really?

    This is not just a question, it’s  holy pause in the noise of daily duties and expectations. It is a quiet invitation to come back to yourself.

    Too many of us have been raised, sometimes knowingly, sometimes silently to believe that our value, identity, and even salvation are tethered solely to the men in our lives. We were taught to serve, to give, to support. And while there is deep beauty and divine honor in being a wife and mother, those titles are not the whole of you.

    You were not created as a role. You were created as a soul.

    Your Identity Is In Christ, Not In Roles

    “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
    — Ephesians 2:10

    Before you were someone’s wife or someone’s mother, you were God’s. Designed with purpose. Shaped with intention. Equipped with gifts.

    So again, who are you?

    What dreams did God place in your heart when you were a little girl, long before marriage or motherhood?

    What skills lie dormant because you believed they didn’t “fit” the role you were taught to fill?

    Biblical Women With Purpose Beyond the Home

    • Deborah – A judge and prophetess (Judges 4–5). She led Israel into battle and brought peace to a nation.
    • Priscilla – A teacher of the gospel (Acts 18). She corrected and guided Apollos, a preacher, alongside her husband.
    • Lydia – A successful businesswoman (Acts 16). She dealt in purple cloth and supported the early church.
    • The Proverbs 31 Woman – Not just a wife and mother, but a businesswoman, investor, and leader:

      “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:16
      “She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” – Proverbs 31:18

    She was not just waiting at the door with dinner. She was up early. Managing. Buying. Selling. Creating. Providing.

    You Are Allowed to Evolve

    Yes, nurture your family. Be the blessing your home needs. But remember this: you are allowed to evolve. To grow. To step into more.

    You are allowed to start that business.
    To return to school.
    To write the book.
    To serve others through your gifts.
    To chase the calling God whispered into your spirit.

    Motherhood and marriage are ministries, but they are not prisons.

    An Encouragement

    Sister, God is not asking you to forsake your family for your dreams. But He may be asking you to wake up to the fullness of what He put inside you.

    Ask Him:
    “Lord, show me who I am when the titles fall away. Remind me of my name, my essence, my purpose.”

    And then listen. Because He will answer.

    Amen