Harmonie Blogs

Tag: child development

  • What I’m curious about?

    “I trust that God doesn’t make mistakes.
    That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task” .

    E. H Abraham

    Did My Children Choose Me? A Mother’s Wondering of Heaven’s Design.

    There are moments in motherhood when the questions get quieter, but deeper.

    Not about nappies, routines, or sleep schedules…
    But about eternity. About destiny. About the sacred mystery of it all.

    Lately, I’ve been sitting with one such question:
    Did my children choose me before they came to earth?

    It may sound strange. But if you’re a woman of faith, or simply a mother with a spiritual heart, you’ve probably felt something similar.
    A knowing. A sense that there’s more to motherhood than biology or coincidence.

    Is it possible that, before the foundations of the world were laid, my children knew me?
    That they whispered a yes in heaven and trusted me with their lives? Even with my flaws, fears, and fragile humanity?

    Or perhaps it was God who chose.
    The same God who spoke in Jeremiah 1:5:
    “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you…”

    What a breathtaking thought.
    He knew us before the womb ever did.

    That means our children were known long before they were conceived.
    They were sanctified, set apart.
    Not just as babies, but as assignments. As gifts. As heaven’s intentions wrapped in human form.

    So maybe the question isn’t just whether they chose us…
    Maybe it’s also: Whom did God choose us for?

    Wrestling with the Harder Question.

    Of course, this leads to a more painful thought.
    If God knows us before the womb, If every child is seen, formed, and sanctified in His plan,
    Then why are some born into such darkness?

    Why are so many babies placed in the hands of abusers, rapists, or neglectful parents?
    Why do some children grow up never knowing love, never knowing safety?

    It hurts to even ask.
    And while I don’t have all the answers, I do believe this:

    This brokenness was never God’s intention.

    He gives the gift of life, but human will, sin, and spiritual warfare shape what happens in the earthly realm.
    Still, He doesn’t abandon the child.
    Even in the deepest trauma, He works for their good, raising up people, moments, and miracles to rewrite their stories.

    Sometimes, children born into pain grow into warriors of healing.
    They become the ones who break generational curses.
    They speak up. They rise. They mother differently.

    So even when the story begins in sorrow, God can still bring it into purpose.

    Chosen to Be Their Mother.

    And then, I look at my own children.
    Each so unique. Each with a different fire in their eyes.
    Each with a purpose that feels bigger than me.

    Why me, Lord?

    I’m not the perfect mum.
    I get tired. I make mistakes. I cry behind closed doors and wonder if I’m giving them enough. If I AM enough.

    And yet… they came.
    They were assigned to me.
    In all my humanity, they still found their way to my womb.
    And somehow, we fit.

    I don’t think that’s an accident.
    I believe God looks at a woman’s life, her history, her pain, her heart and says:
    “This one. She will shape that child in the way no one else could.”

    And perhaps, even in eternity, their tiny souls whispered yes:
    “I choose her. I trust her. I’ll grow inside her story.”

    For the Women Still Waiting,

    If you are a woman reading this and you’re still waiting for children of your own, Whether through birth, adoption, or another sacred path, Know this:

    God has not forgotten you.

    He is the Author of life.
    He is the One who forms children and calls mothers.
    And He still writes beautiful stories.

    Perhaps the child coming to you will be one who needs a redemption arc.
    A child chosen by God to be planted in your healing, your love, your arms.

    Or perhaps God is using your current season to mother through mentorship, love, teaching, or spiritual covering.
    Motherhood is not always biological. It is deeply spiritual.

    I may never fully know if my children chose me,
    But I know the One who chose them.
    And I trust Him.

    I trust that He doesn’t make mistakes.
    That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task.
    And that in the eyes of heaven, this motherhood journey is a sacred assignment.

    So I will continue to raise them with reverence.
    With prayer. With purpose.
    And with a humble heart that says:
    “Thank You, God… for choosing me.”

    Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…”

    Psalm 139:13–16 – “You knit me together in my mother’s womb… all the days ordained for me were written in your book.”

    Isaiah 49:1 – “Before I was born the Lord called me…”

    Comment below on your personal journey in motherhood.

    With love,

    Harmonie 💜

  • Why It Matters: Being Involved in Your Child’s Education

    Hey lovely readers,

    On Wednesday, we touched on Parenting in the 21st Century and today I want to share something that’s very close to my heart—being actively involved in our children’s education. Not just financially, but physically, emotionally, and culturally. I truly believe it’s one of the greatest investments we can make as parents.

    Our children may go to school, and yes, their teachers do a brilliant job. But the truth is, education doesn’t start and stop at the school gates. What we do at home matters—sometimes even more than what happens in the classroom.

    For me, I’ve tried my best to be as hands-on as I possibly can because let’s be honest – private tuition costs a fortune! So we’ve created our own weekly learning schedule at home. And trust me, it’s been one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done- for my pockets too! 😂.

    Let me give you a peek into our routine after school.

    💫 On Mondays, we do English lessons. I sit down with them and we work on things like comprehension, creative writing, spelling, and dictation. Right now, we’re in the middle of learning how to write our own stories—starting from choosing a theme, developing a main character, building a plot, and understanding how a story flows all the way to the idea of publishing it. It’s amazing seeing how their little minds work, and how proud they feel when they bring their own ideas to life.

    💫 On Wednesdays, we dive into cultural studies. As someone from Ghana, it’s so important to me that my children know where they come from. So we talk about our heritage, traditions, history, and values. I also teach them our local language—Asante Twi—because I don’t want them to lose their connection to their roots. It’s more than just language; it’s an identity.

    💫 Thursdays are for Maths and Science—30 minutes each, just to polish up what they’re learning at school and help with any tricky topics they might be struggling with.

    💫 Fridays are all about PSHE (that’s personal, social, health, and economic education) and Home Economics. Sometimes we cook together. Other times, it’s gardening, learning to clean and organise the house, or managing basic finances. I want them to grow up with not just academic knowledge, but life skills too.

    💫Saturdays are reserved for family outings and extra curriculum activities.

    💫Sundays, we slow things down and focus on church and Family Bible study. We read the Word together, discuss it, ask questions, and reflect. It’s our way of grounding the week spiritually and reminding ourselves of what truly matters.

    And for the areas I can’t personally teach, I’m not afraid to invest. On Tuesdays, We pay for Mandarin lessons (£5 an hour) and Piano classes (£15 an hour) for my oldest daughter, and coding classes for my eldest son (£12 per hour). Altogether, we spend £32 a week, which is £128 a month—and honestly, I consider that an excellent investment in their future.

    Now I know this might sound like a lot, and not every family will follow this exact setup. That’s okay. But the heart of what I’m sharing is this: our children thrive when they know we’re interested, present, and invested in their growth. Not just academically—but personally, culturally, and spiritually.

    Now, if you’re thinking, “But I’m not a teacher—I wouldn’t even know where to start,” let me just say this: you’re not alone. Honestly, there are times I don’t feel confident enough to plan everything myself either—especially when it comes to English, Maths, and Science. That’s why I often turn to free online resources to help guide the lessons I do at home with my children. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel—there are incredible tools out there, and I use them too!

    Next week, I’ll dive deeper into a few of my favourites and how you can use them to support your child’s learning journey from home. But just to give you a head start, here are some of the ones I love:

    🌟Khan Academy

    🌟Oak National Academy

    🌟BBC Bitesize

    🌟Math Playground

    🌟British Council – LearnEnglish Kids

    🌟Fun English Games

    🌟Science Journal for Kids

    These are all FREE, easy to use, and full of engaging content your children will actually enjoy and also follows their school curriculum.

    You don’t have to be perfect or have a teacher’s degree. Just showing up and trying your best counts.

    Let’s raise children who know their worth, understand their roots, and feel deeply supported—both in and out of the classroom.

    💬Let me know in the comments section what you’re all doing at home with your little ones—whether it’s reading, cooking, learning new languages, or just figuring it out as you go. We’re all learning from each other, and I’d love to hear your ideas. 💛

    With love and intention,
    Harmonie 💖