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Tag: Christian Motherhood

  • What I’m curious about?

    “I trust that God doesn’t make mistakes.
    That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task” .

    E. H Abraham

    Did My Children Choose Me? A Mother’s Wondering of Heaven’s Design.

    There are moments in motherhood when the questions get quieter, but deeper.

    Not about nappies, routines, or sleep schedules…
    But about eternity. About destiny. About the sacred mystery of it all.

    Lately, I’ve been sitting with one such question:
    Did my children choose me before they came to earth?

    It may sound strange. But if you’re a woman of faith, or simply a mother with a spiritual heart, you’ve probably felt something similar.
    A knowing. A sense that there’s more to motherhood than biology or coincidence.

    Is it possible that, before the foundations of the world were laid, my children knew me?
    That they whispered a yes in heaven and trusted me with their lives? Even with my flaws, fears, and fragile humanity?

    Or perhaps it was God who chose.
    The same God who spoke in Jeremiah 1:5:
    “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you…”

    What a breathtaking thought.
    He knew us before the womb ever did.

    That means our children were known long before they were conceived.
    They were sanctified, set apart.
    Not just as babies, but as assignments. As gifts. As heaven’s intentions wrapped in human form.

    So maybe the question isn’t just whether they chose us…
    Maybe it’s also: Whom did God choose us for?

    Wrestling with the Harder Question.

    Of course, this leads to a more painful thought.
    If God knows us before the womb, If every child is seen, formed, and sanctified in His plan,
    Then why are some born into such darkness?

    Why are so many babies placed in the hands of abusers, rapists, or neglectful parents?
    Why do some children grow up never knowing love, never knowing safety?

    It hurts to even ask.
    And while I don’t have all the answers, I do believe this:

    This brokenness was never God’s intention.

    He gives the gift of life, but human will, sin, and spiritual warfare shape what happens in the earthly realm.
    Still, He doesn’t abandon the child.
    Even in the deepest trauma, He works for their good, raising up people, moments, and miracles to rewrite their stories.

    Sometimes, children born into pain grow into warriors of healing.
    They become the ones who break generational curses.
    They speak up. They rise. They mother differently.

    So even when the story begins in sorrow, God can still bring it into purpose.

    Chosen to Be Their Mother.

    And then, I look at my own children.
    Each so unique. Each with a different fire in their eyes.
    Each with a purpose that feels bigger than me.

    Why me, Lord?

    I’m not the perfect mum.
    I get tired. I make mistakes. I cry behind closed doors and wonder if I’m giving them enough. If I AM enough.

    And yet… they came.
    They were assigned to me.
    In all my humanity, they still found their way to my womb.
    And somehow, we fit.

    I don’t think that’s an accident.
    I believe God looks at a woman’s life, her history, her pain, her heart and says:
    “This one. She will shape that child in the way no one else could.”

    And perhaps, even in eternity, their tiny souls whispered yes:
    “I choose her. I trust her. I’ll grow inside her story.”

    For the Women Still Waiting,

    If you are a woman reading this and you’re still waiting for children of your own, Whether through birth, adoption, or another sacred path, Know this:

    God has not forgotten you.

    He is the Author of life.
    He is the One who forms children and calls mothers.
    And He still writes beautiful stories.

    Perhaps the child coming to you will be one who needs a redemption arc.
    A child chosen by God to be planted in your healing, your love, your arms.

    Or perhaps God is using your current season to mother through mentorship, love, teaching, or spiritual covering.
    Motherhood is not always biological. It is deeply spiritual.

    I may never fully know if my children chose me,
    But I know the One who chose them.
    And I trust Him.

    I trust that He doesn’t make mistakes.
    That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task.
    And that in the eyes of heaven, this motherhood journey is a sacred assignment.

    So I will continue to raise them with reverence.
    With prayer. With purpose.
    And with a humble heart that says:
    “Thank You, God… for choosing me.”

    Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…”

    Psalm 139:13–16 – “You knit me together in my mother’s womb… all the days ordained for me were written in your book.”

    Isaiah 49:1 – “Before I was born the Lord called me…”

    Comment below on your personal journey in motherhood.

    With love,

    Harmonie 💜

  • Faith-Filled Motherhood: Raising Children in Christ

    Motherhood is beautiful, but let’s be honest, it’s also messy, loud, unpredictable, and deeply humbling. Some days I feel like I’ve got it together; other days, I’m praying through tears while holding a baby in one hand, calming a screaming toddler, and stirring dinner with the other hand.

    But in every season, one thing remains constant: I am raising children who belong to God. And that is no small calling.

    —

    ✝️ Why Faith-Filled Motherhood Matters

    As Christian mothers, we’re not just raising children, we’re raising disciples. Our homes are the first church our children will experience. And in today’s world, where values are constantly shifting and godly truth is often challenged, raising children in Christ is more crucial than ever.

    I often remind myself: “They don’t just need a good life. They need a godly life.”

    That means prayer isn’t just something we do before bed. It’s woven into our day, when they’re scared, when they’re sick, when they’re sad, and even when they’re just trying to find their shoes in the morning!

    —

    👶🏽From Diapers to Devotionals

    With four children, two under the age of two, my house is anything but quiet. And yet, God shows me daily that these are holy moments. Changing nappies and wiping noses may not seem spiritual, but when done in love and surrender, they are acts of worship.

    In our home, faith isn’t a “Sunday thing.” It’s our lifestyle. We:

    💛Speak blessings over our children every morning.

    💛Play worship music in the background during our daily routines.

    💛Read a short Bible story together just before bedtime (even if we have to pause to change a diaper mid-way!)

    It’s not perfect, and we miss days. But the goal is not perfection, it’s consistency.

    📚Teaching Them the Word, Living Them the Word

    I’ve learned to integrate faith into every subject I do with my kids at home. When we do science, we marvel at God’s creation. Even in maths, we talk about the God of order and design.

    But beyond the lessons, what speaks the loudest is how we live.

    Do they see me forgive quickly?

    Do they hear me speak kindly about others?

    Do they notice how I respond when things don’t go my way?

    These are the real lessons they’ll carry into adulthood.

    💡Tips for Other Faith-Filled Mamas

    1. Don’t wait for the “right time.” Start small. A verse a day. A prayer before school. A worship song in the car.

    2. Let them see your faith in action. Pray openly. Repent openly. Celebrate answered prayers together.

    3. Use every moment as a teaching moment. Tantrums, tears, and triumphs all have spiritual lessons tucked inside.

    4. Pray for them AND with them. Your intercession is powerful, but modeling prayer is what teaches them to do it themselves.

    5. Give yourself grace. Some days will be chaotic. That’s okay. God works through the messy too.

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    💖My Prayer as a Mother

    “Lord, help me not just raise good children but godly children. May they know You, love You, and walk with You all the days of their lives. Even in my weakness, may Your strength be made perfect in my motherhood.”

    —
    Motherhood is one of my ministries, my mission field, and one of the greatest honours of my life. If you’re reading this and feel weary, just know: God sees you, Mama. And He’s with you, every step of the way.

    Let’s raise warriors for Christ one nappy, one prayer, one bedtime Bible story at a time.

    With love,

    Harmonie 💖

  • Why Christian Women Need Self-Care.

    “Self-care is not a luxury, it’s obedience. Even Jesus paused to rest, pray, and recharge—so should you.”

    Harmonie Abraham

    As Christian women, we often carry so much. We wear multiple hats; wife, mother, sister, friend, intercessor, encourager, homemaker, and more. While we pour into others day after day, it’s easy to neglect ourselves in the name of sacrifice or service. But here’s the truth: taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s stewardship.

    ❤️Why Self-Care Matters for Christian Women

    Self-care is not a worldly indulgence. It’s a spiritual necessity. When we neglect ourselves, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically, we risk burnout, resentment, and disconnection from God’s best for us.

    💡Why Is Self-Care Important?

    God created us with limits. Even Jesus—fully God and fully man—took time to retreat, rest, and be refreshed (Luke 5:16). If our Savior saw the need to pause and recharge, how much more do we?

    Self-care helps us:

    1) Stay spiritually grounded by making space for quiet time with God

    2) Care for others more effectively from a place of overflow, not emptiness

    3) Guard our mental and emotional health in a world full of noise

    4) Reflect God’s love for ourselves—because how we treat ourselves speaks volumes about what we believe about our worth

    📖Biblical Examples of Rest and Renewal

    The Bible is full of examples where rest and self-care were not just allowed but commanded:

    Elijah was exhausted and overwhelmed. Instead of scolding him, God gave him food, rest, and quiet before addressing his spiritual need (1 Kings 19:5–8).

    Jesus often withdrew to quiet places to pray (Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16).

    The Sabbath itself is a gift of rest from God—a rhythm of restoration and worship (Exodus 20:8–10).

    💡How I Practice Self-Care as a Busy Mum of Four (with Two Under Two!)

    Let me be honest, life is busy! With four beautiful children, two of them under two, I know how hard it is to find time for yourself. But I’ve learned that making space for self-care is essential to be the mother, wife, and woman God has called me to be.

    Here’s what my self-care rhythm looks like:

    🌅Early mornings just for me and God: I wake up before the children to spend 15 minutes reading the Word, 15 minutes in prayer, and 30 minutes getting myself ready in peace. That quiet hour sets the tone for my whole day.

    ✨Morning walks with the little ones: After dropping off the older kids at school, I take the babies for a one-hour walk in the buggy. That fresh air and movement helps my mental health and gives me space to think, breathe, and reconnect.

    🌃Friday evenings just for me: I set aside three hours every Friday evening. Sometimes I get my nails or hair done, other times I just read a book or watch a movie, whatever refreshes me in that moment.

    These small acts of self-care are my way of saying, “Lord, I honor the body and mind You gave me.”

    Sister, if you’re feeling weary, stretched thin, or running on empty—know that you’re not alone. God sees you. He delights in your service, but He also invites you to rest in Him.

    Taking care of yourself isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make space to rest, to reflect, to enjoy the life God has given you. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It just needs to be intentional.

    You are worthy of rest. You are allowed to pause. You are loved deeply by a God who knows you need it.

    Take care of yourself, sweet friend—mind, body, and spirit.

    With love and grace,
    Harmonie 💜

  • Woman, who are you?

    Woman, who are you?

    Take a moment. Breathe. Now, ask yourself this:

    Who are you?
    Not as a wife.
    Not as a mother.
    Not as a daughter.
    Not even by the name of your husband or father.

    Who are you, really?

    This is not just a question, it’s  holy pause in the noise of daily duties and expectations. It is a quiet invitation to come back to yourself.

    Too many of us have been raised, sometimes knowingly, sometimes silently to believe that our value, identity, and even salvation are tethered solely to the men in our lives. We were taught to serve, to give, to support. And while there is deep beauty and divine honor in being a wife and mother, those titles are not the whole of you.

    You were not created as a role. You were created as a soul.

    Your Identity Is In Christ, Not In Roles

    “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
    — Ephesians 2:10

    Before you were someone’s wife or someone’s mother, you were God’s. Designed with purpose. Shaped with intention. Equipped with gifts.

    So again, who are you?

    What dreams did God place in your heart when you were a little girl, long before marriage or motherhood?

    What skills lie dormant because you believed they didn’t “fit” the role you were taught to fill?

    Biblical Women With Purpose Beyond the Home

    • Deborah – A judge and prophetess (Judges 4–5). She led Israel into battle and brought peace to a nation.
    • Priscilla – A teacher of the gospel (Acts 18). She corrected and guided Apollos, a preacher, alongside her husband.
    • Lydia – A successful businesswoman (Acts 16). She dealt in purple cloth and supported the early church.
    • The Proverbs 31 Woman – Not just a wife and mother, but a businesswoman, investor, and leader:

      “She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:16
      “She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” – Proverbs 31:18

    She was not just waiting at the door with dinner. She was up early. Managing. Buying. Selling. Creating. Providing.

    You Are Allowed to Evolve

    Yes, nurture your family. Be the blessing your home needs. But remember this: you are allowed to evolve. To grow. To step into more.

    You are allowed to start that business.
    To return to school.
    To write the book.
    To serve others through your gifts.
    To chase the calling God whispered into your spirit.

    Motherhood and marriage are ministries, but they are not prisons.

    An Encouragement

    Sister, God is not asking you to forsake your family for your dreams. But He may be asking you to wake up to the fullness of what He put inside you.

    Ask Him:
    “Lord, show me who I am when the titles fall away. Remind me of my name, my essence, my purpose.”

    And then listen. Because He will answer.

    Amen