“In another universe, I harvest instead of hustle, but even there, I STILL need God.”
-E. H Abraham
In an alternate universe, I wake up every morning to the sound of waves crashing against the cliffs outside my seaside cottage in Cape Town. The sun peeks through sheer white curtains as I stretch, barefoot, into a day that holds no chaos, no deadlines, only purpose and peace.
In this universe, I’m not juggling a dozen roles. I’m not questioning if I’m doing enough or if I’m too much. Here, I am whole. I run a small wellness and writing retreat for women where every guest is reminded that healing is not a luxury, but a necessity.
Instead of racing to meet the expectations of the world, I spend my mornings teaching journaling workshops under the olive trees and my afternoons sipping tea with women who have forgotten how to dream. Together, we write ourselves back to life.
There is no pressure to perform, only permission to be.
In this universe, I never doubted my voice. I never silenced my story. I published my first book at 19, not 39. I spoke on stages, not from a place of ambition, but from a place of sacred assignment.
My children run barefoot in the garden, fluent in three languages, and utterly free. My partner is a man of prayer and poetry, a quiet storm who believes in miracles as much as I do.
We are not rich, not by the world’s standards, but we live abundantly. There is music, there is laughter, there is deep rest. There is rhythm.
I don’t hustle. I harvest.
But even in this perfect parallel, I carry one thing from the world I came from, my faith. In every universe, I would still need God. I would still crave His whispers in the stillness. I would still fall apart and find Him in the pieces.
Because maybe the beauty of this alternate world isn’t that it’s perfect, but that it reminds me what’s possible. What’s already inside me. What I can slowly build in this life, one sacred yes at a time.
And you?
What would your alternate universe look like? Would you change the world, or just finally change yours?
Let yourself imagine. And then, perhaps, let yourself begin.
“I trust that God doesn’t make mistakes. That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task” .
E. H Abraham
Did My Children Choose Me? A Mother’s Wondering of Heaven’s Design.
There are moments in motherhood when the questions get quieter, but deeper.
Not about nappies, routines, or sleep schedules… But about eternity. About destiny. About the sacred mystery of it all.
Lately, I’ve been sitting with one such question: Did my children choose me before they came to earth?
It may sound strange. But if you’re a woman of faith, or simply a mother with a spiritual heart, you’ve probably felt something similar. A knowing. A sense that there’s more to motherhood than biology or coincidence.
Is it possible that, before the foundations of the world were laid, my children knew me? That they whispered a yes in heaven and trusted me with their lives? Even with my flaws, fears, and fragile humanity?
Or perhaps it was God who chose. The same God who spoke in Jeremiah 1:5: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you…”
What a breathtaking thought. He knew us before the womb ever did.
That means our children were known long before they were conceived. They were sanctified, set apart. Not just as babies, but as assignments. As gifts. As heaven’s intentions wrapped in human form.
So maybe the question isn’t just whether they chose us… Maybe it’s also: Whom did God choose us for?
Wrestling with the Harder Question.
Of course, this leads to a more painful thought. If God knows us before the womb, If every child is seen, formed, and sanctified in His plan, Then why are some born into such darkness?
Why are so many babies placed in the hands of abusers, rapists, or neglectful parents? Why do some children grow up never knowing love, never knowing safety?
It hurts to even ask. And while I don’t have all the answers, I do believe this:
This brokenness was never God’s intention.
He gives the gift of life, but human will, sin, and spiritual warfare shape what happens in the earthly realm. Still, He doesn’t abandon the child. Even in the deepest trauma, He works for their good, raising up people, moments, and miracles to rewrite their stories.
Sometimes, children born into pain grow into warriors of healing. They become the ones who break generational curses. They speak up. They rise. They mother differently.
So even when the story begins in sorrow, God can still bring it into purpose.
Chosen to Be Their Mother.
And then, I look at my own children. Each so unique. Each with a different fire in their eyes. Each with a purpose that feels bigger than me.
Why me, Lord?
I’m not the perfect mum. I get tired. I make mistakes. I cry behind closed doors and wonder if I’m giving them enough. If I AM enough.
And yet… they came. They were assigned to me. In all my humanity, they still found their way to my womb. And somehow, we fit.
I don’t think that’s an accident. I believe God looks at a woman’s life, her history, her pain, her heart and says: “This one. She will shape that child in the way no one else could.”
And perhaps, even in eternity, their tiny souls whispered yes: “I choose her. I trust her. I’ll grow inside her story.”
For the Women Still Waiting,
If you are a woman reading this and you’re still waiting for children of your own, Whether through birth, adoption, or another sacred path, Know this:
God has not forgotten you.
He is the Author of life. He is the One who forms children and calls mothers. And He still writes beautiful stories.
Perhaps the child coming to you will be one who needs a redemption arc. A child chosen by God to be planted in your healing, your love, your arms.
Or perhaps God is using your current season to mother through mentorship, love, teaching, or spiritual covering. Motherhood is not always biological. It is deeply spiritual.
I may never fully know if my children chose me, But I know the One who chose them. And I trust Him.
I trust that He doesn’t make mistakes. That even in my weakness, He strengthens me for the task. And that in the eyes of heaven, this motherhood journey is a sacred assignment.
So I will continue to raise them with reverence. With prayer. With purpose. And with a humble heart that says: “Thank You, God… for choosing me.”
Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you…”
Psalm 139:13–16 – “You knit me together in my mother’s womb… all the days ordained for me were written in your book.”
Isaiah 49:1 – “Before I was born the Lord called me…”
Comment below on your personal journey in motherhood.
When You Feel Stuck Mid-journey (Like That Escalator)
“You’re not broken. You’re just being recalibrated by the One who never stops working behind the scenes.”
-E. H Abraham
I read a news story today that, honestly, most people would scroll right past. An escalator in a Nottingham shopping centre broke down and stopped mid-motion.
No injuries. No drama. Just… stuck. People had to walk around it. Some huffed. Others shrugged. Maintenance was called. They fixed it. End of story.
But for some reason, I couldn’t stop thinking about that escalator.
Because I’ve felt like her. And maybe you have too.
You were rising, in purpose, in motherhood, in calling, in business, in healing. You had momentum. But then, something shifted.
You didn’t crash. You didn’t collapse. You just… stalled.
And the world, much like that shopping centre, kept moving. People passed by. Life went on. But there you were, mid-step, mid-project, mid-promise, wondering, What happened to my flow?
As women, especially women of faith, we carry so much. We climb with bags full of dreams, diapers, deadlines, devotionals, and silent prayers. So when we pause, when our rhythm breaks, we don’t always give ourselves permission to breathe.
But God does.
He doesn’t mock the pause. He enters it.
Sometimes, He allows the “stuck” to become sacred. A moment to reset. To be reminded: You’re not broken. You’re being recalibrated.
Even escalators need maintenance. And so do we, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically.
If you feel like your life has paused mid-journey, hear this: God has not forgotten you. You are still called. Still chosen. Still rising.
Let Him do the inner work. Let the Holy Spirit come in like divine maintenance. And when it’s time, you’ll move again, with fresh oil and restored strength.
“You may carry many layers, but none of them are wasted. Every part of you is being woven into purpose. You are not too much. You are becoming everything God created you to be.”
-E. H Abraham
When I first sat down to create Harmonie Blogs, I didn’t just want to share thoughts. I wanted to create impact. Not the loud, world-shaking kind that makes headlines – although if that happens, praise God! But the quiet, consistent kind. The kind that changes one life, one woman, one heart at a time.
This blog was birthed with a desire to be a voice of hope and light, especially for women navigating seasons of loneliness, confusion, burnout, or simply seeking deeper purpose. My hope is that every time a woman stumbles upon one of my posts, whether it’s about prayer, purpose, motherhood, dreams, or healing, she walks away feeling seen, stirred, and strengthened.
Here’s the change I want to see through this blog:
🌱 1. I want women to believe again.
To believe in God’s plan. To believe that their story still matters. To believe that it’s not too late to start again.
🔥 2. I want to fan the flame of forgotten dreams.
So many women are silently carrying buried passions, suffocated by responsibilities and expectations. I want to stir the fire again. To whisper: “You were made for more, and it’s not too late.”
🕊️ 3. I want to create a safe, faith-filled space.
A space where tears are welcomed, laughter is healing, and God’s truth is gently spoken. A place where we can talk about real struggles, marriage, motherhood, identity, mental battles, without judgment or fear.
💡 4. I want to shift mindsets from survival to significance.
It’s not just about waking up and making it through the day. You were created with intention. You’re not here just to exist. You’re here to impact.
So whether this blog reaches ten people or ten thousand, I pray it brings change – not through perfect words, but through truth, love, and divine timing.
Because one inspired woman can shift her entire household. One praying mother can change generations. One bold step can start a movement.
And it can all begin here, with one blog post at a time.
If you’ve felt encouraged today, I’d love for you to share this post or leave a comment below. Let’s start the change together.
With purpose and love, Harmonie Abraham 🤍
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Parenting in the 21st Century: Wisdom for Raising Strong, Healthy Kids
Parenting has never been simple—but parenting in the 21st century brings an entirely new set of challenges. From managing screen time to navigating social media, from rising mental health issues to shifting cultural values, today’s parents are under immense pressure to raise well-rounded, emotionally healthy, and morally grounded children.
Whether you’re a person of faith or simply someone who wants to raise kind, responsible humans, there’s one truth we can all agree on: parenting is more than a job—it’s a calling. And while the world is constantly changing, some principles remain timeless.
1. Build a Strong Foundation of Values
Every family needs a moral compass. What do you want your children to believe about honesty, kindness, hard work, and responsibility? Whether you draw those values from your faith, your culture, or life experience, be intentional about shaping them early.
Children thrive when they know where their family stands and what’s expected of them—not through harsh rules, but through consistent, clear guidance. Modeling integrity, respect, and compassion in your own life is one of the most powerful teaching tools you have.
2. Be Present in an Age of Distraction
We live in a distracted world. Between jobs, phones, and the daily chaos of life, quality time with our kids can easily fall to the bottom of the list. But being physically present is not the same as being emotionally available.
Make time to slow down and truly connect. Sit down for dinner without screens. Ask them open-ended questions. Laugh together. More importantly, create a safe space for your child to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. When they know they’re heard, they become more open and secure.
3. Invest in Their Education and Natural Gifts
Every child is unique—created with their own strengths, talents, and learning styles. Part of our role as parents is to help them discover those gifts and provide opportunities for growth.
Support their education, not just in academics but also in life skills, emotional intelligence, and creativity. Encourage hobbies. Celebrate their efforts. Whether it’s a love for music, sports, science, or storytelling—nurture what makes them come alive.
Success isn’t one-size-fits-all. Helping your child discover their path is one of the greatest investments you can make.
4. Lead with Both Boundaries and Grace
Children need boundaries to feel safe, but they also need grace to grow. It’s easy to fall into the trap of being too strict or too lenient—but the healthiest families find a balance.
Set limits and follow through with love, not anger. Let them make mistakes, and use those moments to teach, not to shame. When kids know that home is a place where they can fail and still be loved, they build resilience, confidence, and trust.
5. Prepare Them, Don’t Just Protect Them
The world can be a difficult place, but sheltering children from every challenge isn’t the answer. Instead, help them build the tools they’ll need to face life with courage and clarity.
Teach them how to think critically, manage emotions, make wise choices, and stand up for themselves and others. Talk about real issues—even the uncomfortable ones—so they’re not learning everything from the internet or their peers. Equip them to live with compassion, confidence, and conviction.
6. Pray Without Stopping
Ultimately, parenting is a spiritual battle. We cannot parent well in our own strength. Philippians 4:6 reminds us, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
Pray for wisdom. Pray for your children’s hearts. Pray for protection, guidance, and godly influences. And let your children see you praying—not just for them, but with them.
7. Stay Humble, Keep learning
There’s no such thing as a perfect parent—and that’s okay. The best parenting is done by those who are willing to keep learning, stay humble, and admit when they get it wrong.
Be willing to apologize. Ask for help. Learn from others. Parenting is a journey, not a formula. And each child will require something a little different from you.
Raising Grounded Kids in an Uncertain World
In a fast-paced, high-pressure world, what your children need most is you—your presence, your love, your guidance, and your example. The values you instill today will shape how they face tomorrow.
Whether your foundation is built on faith, family tradition, or personal principles, the most impactful parenting is rooted in love, consistency, and intentionality.
In addition, as Christian parents, we are not called to be perfect—but to be faithful. We plant seeds, water them with love and truth, and trust God to bring the growth.
Parenting in the 21st century isn’t easy—but it’s also full of opportunity. You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need to show up, stay engaged, and keep walking with your child as they grow into the person they’re meant to be.
So take heart. God sees you. He walks with you. And He equips you to raise children who will shine like lights in a dark world (Philippians 2:15). Let’s parent with purpose, rooted in the Word, led by the Spirit, and driven by the hope we have in Christ.
“Self-care is not a luxury, it’s obedience. Even Jesus paused to rest, pray, and recharge—so should you.”
Harmonie Abraham
As Christian women, we often carry so much. We wear multiple hats; wife, mother, sister, friend, intercessor, encourager, homemaker, and more. While we pour into others day after day, it’s easy to neglect ourselves in the name of sacrifice or service. But here’s the truth: taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s stewardship.
❤️Why Self-Care Matters for Christian Women
Self-care is not a worldly indulgence. It’s a spiritual necessity. When we neglect ourselves, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically, we risk burnout, resentment, and disconnection from God’s best for us.
💡Why Is Self-Care Important?
God created us with limits. Even Jesus—fully God and fully man—took time to retreat, rest, and be refreshed (Luke 5:16). If our Savior saw the need to pause and recharge, how much more do we?
Self-care helps us:
1) Stay spiritually grounded by making space for quiet time with God
2) Care for others more effectively from a place of overflow, not emptiness
3) Guard our mental and emotional health in a world full of noise
4) Reflect God’s love for ourselves—because how we treat ourselves speaks volumes about what we believe about our worth
📖Biblical Examples of Rest and Renewal
The Bible is full of examples where rest and self-care were not just allowed but commanded:
Elijah was exhausted and overwhelmed. Instead of scolding him, God gave him food, rest, and quiet before addressing his spiritual need (1 Kings 19:5–8).
Jesus often withdrew to quiet places to pray (Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16).
The Sabbath itself is a gift of rest from God—a rhythm of restoration and worship (Exodus 20:8–10).
💡How I Practice Self-Care as a Busy Mum of Four (with Two Under Two!)
Let me be honest, life is busy! With four beautiful children, two of them under two, I know how hard it is to find time for yourself. But I’ve learned that making space for self-care is essential to be the mother, wife, and woman God has called me to be.
Here’s what my self-care rhythm looks like:
🌅Early mornings just for me and God: I wake up before the children to spend 15 minutes reading the Word, 15 minutes in prayer, and 30 minutes getting myself ready in peace. That quiet hour sets the tone for my whole day.
✨Morning walks with the little ones: After dropping off the older kids at school, I take the babies for a one-hour walk in the buggy. That fresh air and movement helps my mental health and gives me space to think, breathe, and reconnect.
🌃Friday evenings just for me: I set aside three hours every Friday evening. Sometimes I get my nails or hair done, other times I just read a book or watch a movie, whatever refreshes me in that moment.
These small acts of self-care are my way of saying, “Lord, I honor the body and mind You gave me.”
Sister, if you’re feeling weary, stretched thin, or running on empty—know that you’re not alone. God sees you. He delights in your service, but He also invites you to rest in Him.
Taking care of yourself isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make space to rest, to reflect, to enjoy the life God has given you. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It just needs to be intentional.
You are worthy of rest. You are allowed to pause. You are loved deeply by a God who knows you need it.
Take care of yourself, sweet friend—mind, body, and spirit.
“my contentment comes from a heart full of gratitude”
“a grateful heart is not only the greatest virtue but the parent of all the other virtues”
Cicero
Gratitude is something I’ve learned to hold dear. Not just as a polite gesture, but as a way of life. For me, expressing my gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you.” It’s more about showing it and living it.
I’ve found that I express my gratitude best through actsofservice. Whether it’s lending a helping hand, or simply being present and available, these little actions are my way of saying, “I see you, I appreciate you, and I don’t take you for granted.”
To me there’s something more powerful about going beyond words. When I help others, I feel like I’m giving back a piece of the love or kindness I’ve received. It’s my own way of paying it forward. Sometimes it’s in big ways, and other times it’s as simple as checking in on someone or offering my time when I’d rather rest (and trust me, having 4 children, most of the time, I’m exhausted 😂).
But every one of my acts of service carries meaning. Each one is a small reflection of the gratitude I carry in my heart.
Why is gratitude so important? Because it shifts your focus. In a world that constantly tells us we need more, more success, more recognition, more stuff, gratitude says, “What I have is enough.” It brings peace. It humbles us. It opens our eyes to the blessings we often overlook. And it deepens our relationships, because when people feel appreciated, they feel valued.
Gratitude also strengthens our faith. Personally, when I pause to thank God for what I have (even when it’s not everything I want), I’m reminded of His faithfulness. It keeps me anchored, especially in seasons where life feels hard or uncertain.
So if you’re ever feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled, I encourage you to start with gratitude. Write it down. Say it out loud. Show it through your actions and watch how it transforms your mindset and your heart.
Now I’d love to hear from you. How do you express gratitude? Let me know in the comments or reflect on it in your own journal. However you choose to do it, just make sure you’re doing it often.
“Teaching is the one profession that creates all other professions.” — Unknown
A great teacher is more than someone who delivers lessons. They are mentors, motivators, and role models who leave a lasting impact long after the classroom doors close.
Great teachers have a genuine love for learning and for sharing that love with others. Their enthusiasm is contagious, inspiring students to stay curious and engaged.
They know their material inside and out, but more importantly, they know how to break it down in ways that make it accessible, relevant, and meaningful.
Every child learns differently. A great teacher meets students where they are, adapts their approach, and encourages progress with compassion and patience.
They don’t just teach — they listen. They understand the power of building relationships based on trust, respect, and understanding.
A great teacher values diversity and creates a safe, welcoming environment for every student to be seen, heard, and valued.
They never stop learning. Great teachers reflect on their practice, seek feedback, and continually strive to become better educators and better people.
They nurture confidence, character, and critical thinking. They teach life skills, not just curriculum — shaping not just students, but future citizens and leaders.
Being a great teacher isn’t about perfection. It’s about heart, consistency, and the willingness to walk alongside students as they grow — sometimes stumbling, sometimes soaring — always learning.
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