Woman, who are you?
Take a moment. Breathe. Now, ask yourself this:
Who are you?
Not as a wife.
Not as a mother.
Not as a daughter.
Not even by the name of your husband or father.
Who are you, really?
This is not just a question, it’s holy pause in the noise of daily duties and expectations. It is a quiet invitation to come back to yourself.
Too many of us have been raised, sometimes knowingly, sometimes silently to believe that our value, identity, and even salvation are tethered solely to the men in our lives. We were taught to serve, to give, to support. And while there is deep beauty and divine honor in being a wife and mother, those titles are not the whole of you.
You were not created as a role. You were created as a soul.
Your Identity Is In Christ, Not In Roles
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”
— Ephesians 2:10
Before you were someone’s wife or someone’s mother, you were God’s. Designed with purpose. Shaped with intention. Equipped with gifts.
So again, who are you?
What dreams did God place in your heart when you were a little girl, long before marriage or motherhood?
What skills lie dormant because you believed they didn’t “fit” the role you were taught to fill?
Biblical Women With Purpose Beyond the Home
- Deborah – A judge and prophetess (Judges 4–5). She led Israel into battle and brought peace to a nation.
- Priscilla – A teacher of the gospel (Acts 18). She corrected and guided Apollos, a preacher, alongside her husband.
- Lydia – A successful businesswoman (Acts 16). She dealt in purple cloth and supported the early church.
- The Proverbs 31 Woman – Not just a wife and mother, but a businesswoman, investor, and leader:
“She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:16
“She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” – Proverbs 31:18
She was not just waiting at the door with dinner. She was up early. Managing. Buying. Selling. Creating. Providing.
You Are Allowed to Evolve
Yes, nurture your family. Be the blessing your home needs. But remember this: you are allowed to evolve. To grow. To step into more.
You are allowed to start that business.
To return to school.
To write the book.
To serve others through your gifts.
To chase the calling God whispered into your spirit.
Motherhood and marriage are ministries, but they are not prisons.
An Encouragement
Sister, God is not asking you to forsake your family for your dreams. But He may be asking you to wake up to the fullness of what He put inside you.
Ask Him:
“Lord, show me who I am when the titles fall away. Remind me of my name, my essence, my purpose.”
And then listen. Because He will answer.
Amen
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